Login or Join Now

Upload your photos, chat, win prizes and much more

Username:
Password:
Remember Me

Can't Access your Account?

New to ePHOTOzine? Join ePHOTOzine for free!

Like 0

Funerals...

Join Now

Join ePHOTOzine, the friendliest photography community.

Upload photos, chat with photographers, win prizes and much more for free!

55% OFF new PortraitPro 12 - use code EPHZROS414.
mohikan22
mohikan22  102180 forum posts United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:08 PM

the question is, do you take an 8yr boy and an 11 yr old girl to a funeral.....?

Sponsored Links
Sponsored Links 
8 Feb 2012 - 2:08 PM

Join ePHOTOzine for free and remove these adverts.

digicammad
digicammad e2 Member 1021988 forum postsdigicammad vcard United Kingdom37 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:11 PM

Yes, why wouldn't you? Unless of course it is the funeral of somebody they don't really know, in which case there is no reason to do so.

mohikan22
mohikan22  102180 forum posts United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:13 PM

well its their nan... but im stuck with do they remeber her as she was... or the last memory of being buried...

digicammad
digicammad e2 Member 1021988 forum postsdigicammad vcard United Kingdom37 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:16 PM

I think they are old enough to be asked what they would like to do. They may like the opportunity to say goodbye, just don't make them go to an open coffin viewing.

ade_mcfade
ade_mcfade  1014554 forum posts England216 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:18 PM

only seen 1 open coffin... it's not a good thing even back then when I was 19....

mohikan22
mohikan22  102180 forum posts United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:20 PM

i shall bear that im mind,,,,

NickHaigh
NickHaigh  2 United Kingdom
8 Feb 2012 - 2:24 PM

what a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

ade_mcfade
ade_mcfade  1014554 forum posts England216 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:25 PM


Quote: What a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

lol

I thought it was going to be about photography at funerals when I opened the thread Wink

keithh
keithh  1022556 forum posts Wallis and Futuna29 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:27 PM

Not Really.

I'd say yes, with the appropriate little chat and comfort afterwards.

JJGEE
JJGEE  96097 forum posts England18 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:28 PM


Quote: what a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

But, it is in the "Off - Topic Discussion" category

answersonapostcard
answersonapostcard Site Moderator 1012491 forum postsanswersonapostcard vcard United Kingdom15 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:32 PM

Depends on the children, but I would say yes. They'll obviously need lots of support though.

mohikan22
mohikan22  102180 forum posts United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:32 PM

Julie you beat me to it.

hm seems to be a "problematic" solution is needed. many say yes many say no both with good reasons yet im no nearer the answer... but the guidance is greatfully recieved/

Daffy1
Daffy1  6332 forum posts Ireland
8 Feb 2012 - 2:35 PM

Yes, especially if it is someone they knew and loved. Death and grief are a normal part of life. Over here in Ireland its one of the things we generally do very well. We do "wakes" and "funeral" very well and all members of the family get involved. Also remember children are not stupid and have their own emotion and they should not cossetted from "sadness" etc .Grief and sadness are OK and normal ,but they are not very nice. "Stiff upper lip" causes alot more problems than a good cry and wail. Most of the problems we have with children and death is caused by the problem us adults have in coping it. They will always remember their NAN the way she was , and if they are allowed to grieve properly they will remember her even better. Damian

Last Modified By Daffy1 at 8 Feb 2012 - 2:38 PM
janeez
janeez e2 Member 51147 forum postsjaneez vcard United Kingdom8 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:35 PM

Don't worry about them only remembering her funeral their strongest memories will be all the happy ones they have of her.

JJGEE
JJGEE  96097 forum posts England18 Constructive Critique Points
8 Feb 2012 - 2:38 PM


Quote: They'll obviously need lots of support though.

Which also applies to the children's parents because their "nan" would be the parent's "mum"

Add a Comment

You must be a member to leave a comment

Username:
Password:
Remember me:
Un-tick this box if you want to login each time you visit.