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    mohikan22
    8 Feb 2012 - 2:08 PM
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    the question is, do you take an 8yr boy and an 11 yr old girl to a funeral.....?

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    digicammad
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:11 PM
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    Yes, why wouldn't you? Unless of course it is the funeral of somebody they don't really know, in which case there is no reason to do so.

    mohikan22
    8 Feb 2012 - 2:13 PM
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    well its their nan... but im stuck with do they remeber her as she was... or the last memory of being buried...

    digicammad
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:16 PM
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    I think they are old enough to be asked what they would like to do. They may like the opportunity to say goodbye, just don't make them go to an open coffin viewing.

    ade_mcfade
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:18 PM
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    only seen 1 open coffin... it's not a good thing even back then when I was 19....

    mohikan22
    8 Feb 2012 - 2:20 PM
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    i shall bear that im mind,,,,

    what a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

    ade_mcfade
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:25 PM
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    Quote: What a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

    lol

    I thought it was going to be about photography at funerals when I opened the thread Wink

    keithh
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:27 PM
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    Not Really.

    I'd say yes, with the appropriate little chat and comfort afterwards.

    JJGEE
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:28 PM
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    Quote: what a strange thing to ask in a photography forum

    But, it is in the "Off - Topic Discussion" category

    answersonapostcard
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:32 PM
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    Depends on the children, but I would say yes. They'll obviously need lots of support though.

    mohikan22
    8 Feb 2012 - 2:32 PM
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    Julie you beat me to it.

    hm seems to be a "problematic" solution is needed. many say yes many say no both with good reasons yet im no nearer the answer... but the guidance is greatfully recieved/

    Daffy1
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:35 PM
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    Yes, especially if it is someone they knew and loved. Death and grief are a normal part of life. Over here in Ireland its one of the things we generally do very well. We do "wakes" and "funeral" very well and all members of the family get involved. Also remember children are not stupid and have their own emotion and they should not cossetted from "sadness" etc .Grief and sadness are OK and normal ,but they are not very nice. "Stiff upper lip" causes alot more problems than a good cry and wail. Most of the problems we have with children and death is caused by the problem us adults have in coping it. They will always remember their NAN the way she was , and if they are allowed to grieve properly they will remember her even better. Damian

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    janeez
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:35 PM
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    Don't worry about them only remembering her funeral their strongest memories will be all the happy ones they have of her.

    JJGEE
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    8 Feb 2012 - 2:38 PM
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    Quote: They'll obviously need lots of support though.

    Which also applies to the children's parents because their "nan" would be the parent's "mum"

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