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kathrynlouise
kathrynlouise e2 Member 2364 forum postskathrynlouise vcard United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
16 Oct 2011 - 8:33 PM


Quote: He probably feels pretty wretched about the whole thing and you were fortunate enough to have your sisters to help when you were in a similar situation. Give him (and yourself) some positives to work on instead of all these bad feelings. Hope things get better soon for you both. Smile

Thankyou. I am trying, believe me i am. Alot happened over last few months and you just sometimes lose the light at the end of the tunnel. Sure we'll find it again in time Smile

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KeithLockwood
17 Oct 2011 - 11:33 AM

Speaking as a man who in the last few years has put my wife through me suffering a year's unemployment, depression and cancer I can completely understand your frustration with him and need to vent. Contrary to other viewpoints I think forums can be exactly the right place to vent as your relationship with us lot is detached and you can therefore write what you really feel without subconsciously wondering whether what you say will hurt someone. Detachment and verbalising your frustration is very healthy.
I hope that you get through this patch and come out the other end intact and with a sense of humour! Hang in there.

JackAllTog
JackAllTog e2 Member 53513 forum postsJackAllTog vcard United Kingdom58 Constructive Critique Points
17 Oct 2011 - 12:16 PM

Don't they say that retirement can be the first time a couple really get to know each other. Its worth taking some time along the way to prepare for this and short breaks of unemployment may help you do this.

Just Jas
Just Jas  1225727 forum posts England1 Constructive Critique Points
17 Oct 2011 - 12:21 PM


Quote: Don't they say that retirement can be the first time a couple really get to know each other.

Can be a nasty shock! WinkWinkWink

digicammad
digicammad  1121988 forum posts United Kingdom37 Constructive Critique Points
17 Oct 2011 - 12:22 PM

Like it or not, redundancy is often more of a blow to a man than a woman. Speaking as a man who has been made redundant on 3 separate occasions and currently in danger of my 4th I know what I'm talking about. Even if the man is not the main wage earner that feeling is still built into our psyche and any noticeable lowering of the standard of living carries a real feeling of guilt.

I know every relationship is different, but if I was your hubby and spotted this thread I would feel deeply hurt. It's one thing sounding off to family or friends, but venting your frustrations in an arena open to millions of people, some of whom may know your husband, doesn't strike me as a very compassionate thing to do.

Ian

Just Jas
Just Jas  1225727 forum posts England1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 10:49 AM

I agree with Ian.

Least said, soonest mended.

At least be charitable.

kathrynlouise
kathrynlouise e2 Member 2364 forum postskathrynlouise vcard United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 5:15 PM

Have put this to bed. Shouldn't have let vent to my feelings on here and i apologise. Hitting the punchbag in future Tongue

ray1
ray1  10515 forum posts England1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 5:37 PM

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus - nah its more like Men are Power Rangers and Women are Princesses - simples.

Tooth
Tooth  95772 forum posts Ireland227 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 7:25 PM

Nah, it's more like...
.
.
men are men and women are women - simpleser

(and vive la difference) Smile

polis_928tadw59

I do like the wisdom and comments here. They enlighten my life.Wink

kathrynlouise
kathrynlouise e2 Member 2364 forum postskathrynlouise vcard United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 8:44 PM

And me Grin
Do feel i should get out of the grumpy group. life is too short to be grumpy Tongue

polis_928tadw59

Please do NOT leave the GrumpyGroup, please. We men could not be grumpy without you women. You lot are the cause of all grumpiness, in a pleasant sort of way.Tongue Two weeks ago my beloved was really winding me up in the morning. I snapped, and had the coffee machine jug in my hand with clean water. Only 2 cups of, but I threw it over her. Apologised straight away, but that was not sufficient. Three days later, still not speaking, I said to her, " You want to think yourself lucky. I could not be bloody bothered to walk to the coal house for the axe." She nearly smiled, but stifled it. Hold a grudge - yes women do, but what about the time she hit me on the head with the frying pan 30+ years back ? I forgave her, within a day.GrinWink

kathrynlouise
kathrynlouise e2 Member 2364 forum postskathrynlouise vcard United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 9:01 PM

How could i leave! You make me chuckle Tongue
Were you really hit with a frying pan?????? Smile

polis_928tadw59

Yes, hit with the frying pan. Until then I was fairly intelligent, but that blow knocked my brain into place. As a result I was barred from Mastermind.Tongue

kathrynlouise
kathrynlouise e2 Member 2364 forum postskathrynlouise vcard United Kingdom1 Constructive Critique Points
23 Oct 2011 - 9:31 PM

Only fairly intelligent???? Dare i ask what you did? Tongue

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