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Quote: He probably feels pretty wretched about the whole thing and you were fortunate enough to have your sisters to help when you were in a similar situation. Give him (and yourself) some positives to work on instead of all these bad feelings. Hope things get better soon for you both. 
Thankyou. I am trying, believe me i am. Alot happened over last few months and you just sometimes lose the light at the end of the tunnel. Sure we'll find it again in time
Speaking as a man who in the last few years has put my wife through me suffering a year's unemployment, depression and cancer I can completely understand your frustration with him and need to vent. Contrary to other viewpoints I think forums can be exactly the right place to vent as your relationship with us lot is detached and you can therefore write what you really feel without subconsciously wondering whether what you say will hurt someone. Detachment and verbalising your frustration is very healthy.
I hope that you get through this patch and come out the other end intact and with a sense of humour! Hang in there.
Don't they say that retirement can be the first time a couple really get to know each other. Its worth taking some time along the way to prepare for this and short breaks of unemployment may help you do this.
Like it or not, redundancy is often more of a blow to a man than a woman. Speaking as a man who has been made redundant on 3 separate occasions and currently in danger of my 4th I know what I'm talking about. Even if the man is not the main wage earner that feeling is still built into our psyche and any noticeable lowering of the standard of living carries a real feeling of guilt.
I know every relationship is different, but if I was your hubby and spotted this thread I would feel deeply hurt. It's one thing sounding off to family or friends, but venting your frustrations in an arena open to millions of people, some of whom may know your husband, doesn't strike me as a very compassionate thing to do.
Ian
Have put this to bed. Shouldn't have let vent to my feelings on here and i apologise. Hitting the punchbag in future 
I do like the wisdom and comments here. They enlighten my life.
And me 
Do feel i should get out of the grumpy group. life is too short to be grumpy
Please do NOT leave the GrumpyGroup, please. We men could not be grumpy without you women. You lot are the cause of all grumpiness, in a pleasant sort of way. Two weeks ago my beloved was really winding me up in the morning. I snapped, and had the coffee machine jug in my hand with clean water. Only 2 cups of, but I threw it over her. Apologised straight away, but that was not sufficient. Three days later, still not speaking, I said to her, " You want to think yourself lucky. I could not be bloody bothered to walk to the coal house for the axe." She nearly smiled, but stifled it. Hold a grudge - yes women do, but what about the time she hit me on the head with the frying pan 30+ years back ? I forgave her, within a day.
How could i leave! You make me chuckle
Were you really hit with a frying pan??????
Yes, hit with the frying pan. Until then I was fairly intelligent, but that blow knocked my brain into place. As a result I was barred from Mastermind.
Only fairly intelligent???? Dare i ask what you did?
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