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Still watching every hour

dianah > dianah Blog > Still watching every hour
16/02/2009 - 8:55 AM



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Just a very quick blog as I will not be uploading for the time being.
Mum's first operation on Christmas Eve went sadly wrong and on Friday night she was rushed into theatre as she was desperately ill and they had to redo all the original work and take out a huge abscess that had ruptured.
Six hours in theatre and mum is 85. I hardly recognise her as my mum now and we are spending most of the days at the hospital. The doctor's still haven't discounted her pulling through but at the moment her kidneys are failing.
I can't describe the feelings and my heart really goes out to anyone who has to go through times like these.
Thank you so much for all your messages of warmth and hope..every word has been a comfort.
I really do hope to be back with you all soon.
Di

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LisaRose
LisaRose e2 Member 8172 forum postsLisaRose vcard United States4 Constructive Critique Points
17 Feb 2009 - 5:34 PM

Thinking of you Di, at this very difficult time, and wishing the best for you and your family.

Lisa

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dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
17 Feb 2009 - 5:37 PM

Thank you very much Lisa, it is really good to hear from you.

BarbaraR
BarbaraR e2 Member 8BarbaraR vcard England1 Constructive Critique Points
19 Feb 2009 - 2:13 PM

Hi Di,
I came seeking news and am glad to find your blog.
My thoughts and very best wishes are with you and Mum.
Catch you when poss' gal.
Barbara x

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
19 Feb 2009 - 5:30 PM

Thank you Barbara.
Mum sadly died yesterday..we are devastated as she went through a really dreadful time and there was nothing we could do to help her.
The days are really hard at the moment.
Thank you so much for mailing.
Di x

LisaRose
LisaRose e2 Member 8172 forum postsLisaRose vcard United States4 Constructive Critique Points
19 Feb 2009 - 7:05 PM

So sorry Di....I am thinking of you.

Lisa

BarbaraR
BarbaraR e2 Member 8BarbaraR vcard England1 Constructive Critique Points
20 Feb 2009 - 8:07 AM

Oh Di, I'm so sad to hear of the loss of your dear Mum.
She was just too poorly, bless her.
I'm shedding a tear with you and will be thinking of
you lots.
I know how hard it is having lost my own darling Mum
and with a very elderly, struggling Dad.
I hope all the coming arrangements go smoothly and
you come to look back with a smile in time.
Barbara x

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
20 Feb 2009 - 4:16 PM

Thank you Lisa and Barbara..it really does make a difference hearing from you both.
We have just found out there was a serious mistake made in the first operation and that is why she had to undergo the huge, second op. There is going to be a coroner's inquest by an independant hospital. This holds up the death certificate etc but it is just so dreadful to learn that she could have pulled through and she kept saying to me the operation hadn't worked..she had nightmares about it and I kept assuring her she was imagining it !
At least she is at peace now though..I just have to hold on to that. I will be back soon, we just need to organise the funeral and I need some space and time.
Speak to you both soon. Di x

Last Modified By dianah at 20 Feb 2009 - 4:16 PM
Val Prowse
Val Prowse e2 Member 11Val Prowse vcard England
24 Feb 2009 - 3:28 PM

Hello Di, I have just caught up with your news and I am so sorry. I know just how you feel having lost my own mother four months ago after a long time spent in hospital. The mistake in your Mum's first operation sounds must be very distressing for you to think about but at least she is in peace now.
Hope to see you back soon.

Val

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
24 Feb 2009 - 4:51 PM

Hello Val,
Thank you so much for your words..It is lovely to hear from you.

We are unable to organise the funeral because of the coroner's inquest into the operations..it is this waiting that is so hard and the thought of what might have been. But as you say, I do know she is at peace.

So sorry about your mum too..it is such a sad time isn't it ?

I will be back soon, the days are so busy at the moment and I just seem to have lost the motivation.

Di x

Sylviwhalley
Sylviwhalley e2 Member 798 forum postsSylviwhalley vcard United Kingdom2 Constructive Critique Points
27 Feb 2009 - 10:10 AM

Hello Di
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news about your Mum, this is a very difficult time for you and my thoughts are with you. Your Mum is at peace now, try and cherish happy memories. Take care and hope to see you back soon.
Sylvia

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
27 Feb 2009 - 4:23 PM

Hello Sylvia,
Thank you so much for the mail.
The last few weeks have been really dreadful but I am beginning to feel slightly less wobbly and emotional. I don't think I have ever been through anything so harrowing and my poor mum suffered greatly.
The funeral is now next Friday and mum will be laid to rest in Lanhydrock Park which is a National Trust place very close to us and her favourite place for walking. We are allowed to plant a tree and crocus bulbs etc so there will be a place to remember her.
I will be back soon but there is so much to do in the meantime and not easy things either...I hope you are well and smiling ! Smile
Much love Di

helenlinda
helenlinda e2 Member 7338 forum postshelenlinda vcard United Kingdom21 Constructive Critique Points
4 Mar 2009 - 11:48 AM

Have only just read this, but thought I would discover how things are going here. Hope Mum is pulling through. Take care
Helen

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
4 Mar 2009 - 6:15 PM

Mum died Helen.
The funeral is Friday. She went through the most terrible agony in the last few days. We are so busy with so much to sort that I don't seem to have time to even think, which is maybe just as well.
Many thanks for your mail..it is good to hear from you.
Di x x

BarbaraR
BarbaraR e2 Member 8BarbaraR vcard England1 Constructive Critique Points
6 Mar 2009 - 8:05 AM

Thinking of you especially today Di.

Barbara x

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
6 Mar 2009 - 10:34 PM

Thank you Barbara xx

The day has been and gone. Full of sadness but lovely times as well.
I am so tired now..I was really worried about the cremation but it was done beautifully.

Speak to you soon and be back soonish !
Di x x

BarbaraR
BarbaraR e2 Member 8BarbaraR vcard England1 Constructive Critique Points
7 Mar 2009 - 8:13 AM

Hi Di,
Glad the ceremony for your dear Mum was what
you and the family would have wished.
Well done.
R.I.P.
It'll be good to see you back just when you feel
able.
All the best,
Barbara x

franfoto
franfoto e2 Member 7franfoto vcard England32 Constructive Critique Points
9 Mar 2009 - 7:20 PM

Hello Di,
Hope you are coping with the aftermath of all the recent traumas and finding each day easier to get through as time goes by. I am so glad to hear that the funeral went well and that your Mum is now at rest. Time to reflect on everything she has given to you all as a family and remember all the happy times of which there must be many.
Fran xx

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
11 Mar 2009 - 9:23 AM

Thank you so much Fran, it is lovely to hear from you.
We are struggling a bit..I thought it would be easier after the funeral but somehow it is more difficult. Time to refect I suppose, now that all the organising has been done.
It will get easier I am sure. I am just taking each day as it comes.
Di x x

pennyspike
pennyspike e2 Member 112068 forum postspennyspike vcard United Kingdom29 Constructive Critique Points
11 Mar 2009 - 8:46 PM

So sorry about your sad news.

My own Mum was 85 on Sunday and my grandchildren decided that her ideal birthday would be at a place called 'Monkey 'Bizzness' a huge indoor play park. As her husband of the last 25 years died only three weeks earlier we wondered if it was wise but being surrounded by children enjoying themselves was a wonderful diversion from the sadness.

I hope that you enjoy the laughter of children and the the escapism of your creativity.

Penny
x

dianah
dianah e2 Member 824474 forum postsdianah vcard United Kingdom4 Constructive Critique Points
11 Mar 2009 - 10:44 PM

Thank you Penny. It is lovely to hear from you and so glad your mum enjoyed her birthday.
It is a really sad time for us at the moment but mum was so desperately ill and in such great pain it has to be a relief in a way because we just found it so difficult to sit with her and not be able to do anything.
The days will get better I am sure..we are just taking it one day at a time at the moment.
Di

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