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another observation

Pete > Pete Blog > another observation
30/10/2008 - 9:47 AM



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Me again on observing human nature.

I cycle to work. Two or three times each week I see an elderly man walking his dog. We pass on a small bridle way. I've seen him every week throughout the year.

When I go hill walking I'm the sort who always says hello to walkers passing in the opposite direction, so I continue this act of courtesy on my flatland travels - when appropriate. As I pass this man daily I thought it would become an almost natural thing to do. In the early days I said good morning and got no response. I continued nodding, smiling etc each day and repeated this act for a few months and never got a response, most times he would avoid eye contact. Then he started to make eye contact, but still no response and what seemed like almost an aggressive stare. Eventually I gave up. I now find it really unnatural to pass without saying anything and also struggle to avoid eye contact. It all feels wrong.

Back to hill walking. When I was younger everyone said hello to each other.
A few years ago I started notice that more and more walk straight past.

Do I smell? Do I look threatening?...I hope not Wink

Tags: Ignorant, Threatened

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john64
john64 e2 Member 10824 forum postsjohn64 vcard England
30 Oct 2008 - 12:33 PM

You're not threatening at all Pete. In fact, I tried to get a word with you at Focus but you just looked straight past me Wink

(Or maybe you were just a bit busy)

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LisaRose
LisaRose  7172 forum posts United States4 Constructive Critique Points
30 Oct 2008 - 12:39 PM

His response, or lack of response, says much more about him than you. Who knows what this man has gone through. His inability to react doesn't mean that on some level he didn't appreciate that someone tried to be nice to him.

Bellie
Bellie  7507 forum posts
30 Oct 2008 - 1:20 PM

Elsewhere on the internet is a blog from an elderly gentleman who mentions that every day when walking his dog, a strange man on a bicycle looks at him in a funny way. He says he'd say hello but is worried what it will lead to in this day and age. Smile

Back to real life, we always say hello to walkers when out in the country. On a busy day in the Lake district it can tire your jaws somewhat. We only stop as we reach the towns... no point in saying hello to someone who can't be bothered to get out onto the hills is there!

I did once said hello to an old guy as I past him on the street, and he called me an effing twa* I was a bit surprised as you can imagine.

aftertherain
30 Oct 2008 - 8:35 PM

Where I live everyone speaks, sometimes it takes an hour to travel a mile Smile
People passing in cars wave.

Tourists in the most part totally ignore me - even when I say 'morning' or 'nice day'.

I've also noticed that, because we live in open space, country people stand farther apart when chatting, townies close up on you.

webjam
webjam  10292 forum posts Netherlands11 Constructive Critique Points
31 Oct 2008 - 8:58 PM

We say hello to everyone who we meet on the dyke. But when we are in the 'big town' we just don't do it.
Funny how society has made its rules.
Jacqueline

Mynett
Mynett e2 Member 6137 forum postsMynett vcard United Kingdom6 Constructive Critique Points
1 Nov 2008 - 12:00 AM

I think it is nice to speak to people , trouble is I always seem to attract the " loony on the bus !" wherever I go, there is always one ....

JJGEE
JJGEE  96306 forum posts England18 Constructive Critique Points
1 Nov 2008 - 5:49 PM

Next time get there a bit early and as he walks by start loading a film camera with some film.
People always stop and have a chat when they see me doing it Smile

Boyd
Boyd  1011213 forum posts Wales11 Constructive Critique Points
2 Nov 2008 - 1:01 PM

Are you sure it's not a guide dog with the man?

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