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I don't want to do weddings.

CathyT 12 7.3k 18 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 4:34PM
If you're not comfortable don't do it........

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puertouk 6 1.1k 17 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 4:38PM
Wedding photography is a massive job. This is a one off photography shoot and if you don't get it right, you cannot just trot back to do it again like a landscape shot. To do this sort of work, you should go with a pro photographer and accompany him/her on a few occasions to see how they go about doing it. If you feel happy that you have the right equipment and are confident that you can carry out the photography to a high standard, go for it. But, you have no real interest in it, so don't let anyone bully you into doing it. If they only want to spent a couple of hundred pounds, just tell them your fee is 1500. That will soon put them off. If they say yes, you will have enough money to go out and buy a decent camera! Stick to your guns and take on jobs you are comfortable with.
ourdayphotos 6 229 Scotland
7 Oct 2012 5:00PM
Fishnet it's obvious that you don't want to do wedding work, so don't. Simple.
Bevy 5 13 England
7 Oct 2012 5:02PM

Quote:Fishnet it's obvious that you don't want to do wedding work, so don't. Simple.

She is not asking for advice, she has already decided not to, she is just asking if any one else feels the same Smile
lemmy 11 2.7k United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:06PM

Quote:If you were, then you'd be wrong on all 3 counts.

I wasn't. I've always been a grafter and being often self-employed found it against my nature to turn down anything that earns me money. When I was made redundant from one job I worked as a school caretaker. I hated each and every moment of it but it brought in dosh. Like I said, if you have no means of getting money other than working, you don't have a choice.

Actually, you do have to be paranoid to read what you did into my post. What legally says is that provided it is not against the law I will earn money any way I can. Since I could not claim benefits and my family had no money, I had no option but to accept work whether I enjoyed it or not. The inference you seem to make simply isn't there.
widtink 5 406 2 Scotland
7 Oct 2012 5:07PM
Just stick to your gut feelings it's just not worth it if it stresses you out to that extentSad spend the time with your kids and be happyWink x BTW your PF is fantastic you are quite an accomplished photographer Smile

Fishnet 14 5.0k 5 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:26PM
Thanks Rod, just wish I could actually ear money photographing the things I'm comfortable with! (But then, don't we all Wink )
Fishnet 14 5.0k 5 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:28PM
Lemmy, I assume you weren't a single parent?? If I was a single person with no children, I'd take cleaning jobs too, I did before I was married, but social services are weird about you leaving your 7 yr old home alone....
User_Removed 16 2.8k 11 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:40PM
Hi Anna, Just sent you a PM. Please read and let me know.
Hope you're well. Smile
Fishnet 14 5.0k 5 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:53PM
How weird, was thinking about you earlier!
Just cooking dinner at the mo but will get back to you later tonight Smile
User_Removed 14 17.9k 8 Norway
7 Oct 2012 5:56PM
As Cathy says...

Quote:If you're not comfortable don't do it........

I totally agree.
lobsterboy Plus
14 14.9k 13 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 5:59PM

Quote:after the hours I put in editing photos at my kids expense basically, because I was holed up doing that every minute I had and was a grump to be around, I didn't actually make much money from it!

To be honest, that sounds like where the problem is. You are doing something you don't like and seeing very little reward for all that hassle and pain.
I often get asked to create websites for people, as I do it all day I am not particularly interested in doing it in my own time.
So if someone asks me to create a website I usually give them a pretty high quote, If they really want me to do it I can easily equate the amount of work I am doing with what I can spend the money on.

I was talking to the bloke who came to unblock my drains & he works on the same principle (and yes it was F**** expensive!).
CathyT 12 7.3k 18 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 6:05PM
Next time save yourself some money and get a small child with a bucket and spade to clear it for you.....
peterjones Plus
16 4.7k 1 United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 6:08PM
Whatever your particular circumstances are I think Fishnet that you are quite right to trust in your instincts and turn away wedding photography if you really feel in your heart that you are not comfortable with them; to be really successful you have to want to want to photograph weddings and many people get a real buzz and thrill out of weddings likewise there are just as many if not more people who wouldn't go near a wedding as a photographer.

Good luck, Peter.
lemmy 11 2.7k United Kingdom
7 Oct 2012 6:18PM

Quote: I assume you weren't a single parent??

No, though with my work my wife often thought she was Sad

But surely the situation is answered for you - if you cannot do it because of looking after the children then wanting to do it or not doesn't really arise. Can friends and family not understand that?

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