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Every Breath You Take

By carmenfuchs
This image is the result of a conversation about what does, and does not, constitute stalking.

Tags: Portraits and people



ddolfelin 11 103 3 Wales
8 May 2015 11:50AM
I would think that a stalker would take one look and take to his heels!
Good processing.
TanyaH Plus
20 1.3k 411 United Kingdom
8 May 2015 12:28PM
Your personal works, like this, where you question the darker side of humanity, really make the viewer stand back and question their own motives, choices and ways of being. I have nothing but admiration for the way you use yourself as a canvas for your artwork. Wow!
Joline Plus
16 38 59 United States
8 May 2015 12:34PM
I would have to echo Tanya's comments.
You paint such vivid emotions with your work.
8 May 2015 1:36PM
very nice work
Chinga Plus
12 112 3 United Kingdom
8 May 2015 3:59PM
Great shot and a great result... Good work!
JouŠo 18 56 Finland
8 May 2015 4:45PM
Pure art!

mrswoolybill Plus
16 3.8k 2590 United Kingdom
8 May 2015 5:12PM
I have had such conversations, I understand this.
Jouko, thank you for your user award.
barbarahirst 14 27 12 United Kingdom
8 May 2015 5:55PM
you have caught that emotion so well here.....
9 May 2015 12:14AM
I find it tricky to be an art critic(or whatever!) but, I do recognise and respect images like this, Carmen.
It deservedly demands one's attention, appreciation and understanding.
Creativity at its best.

9 May 2015 4:22PM
a great result...
SlowSong Plus
14 10.7k 30 England
10 May 2015 8:21AM
So imaginative and expertly descriptive.
bliba Plus
17 1 2 Austria
11 May 2015 5:20PM
Very emotional

Strong work 👍
12 May 2015 11:20AM
thank you very much for your user award, my p. Smile
IsabelC 8 51 10 Denmark
13 May 2015 1:48PM
Superb! Watching, being watched or watching being watched...who knows...
13 May 2015 3:43PM
Thank you for your user award, Isabel. Very much appreciated. Smile
Rev2 13 302 2 England
13 May 2015 10:43PM
A mesmerising image.
14 May 2015 10:25PM
Every time that I post something like this or my previous post, I get alot of email from women who are having these kinds of problems. Women who don't vote or comment or publicly acknowledge what they are going through. In any way. You'd think that this information is common knowledge by now but it isn't. Or some people just don't like looking stuff up or I don't know what. I realise that not everyone is as forward and direct as I am but, ladies, please speak up. Do more than just writing an email to somebody who isn't in your circle of family and friends. Protect yourselves. Please. Before something goes really wrong. Sometimes you just can't be, "nice," my friends. You can't, "wait for it to get better." Please wake up.

For anyone having a problem with online stalking, I suggest that you go online and do some serious research. Don't live your life feeling uncomfortable - do something about it. Many attorneys are taking these cases now and if they can't do anything more than contact the stalker's employer to report their online behavior, it's still something and it's still effective - especially if the person is doing this while they are at work using company computers and time.

There is also the psychology behind stalking that is important to research, as well. Unfortunately, people who exhibit these behaviors usually don't think that they are doing anything wrong. They become obssessed and delusional and even think the victim likes what they are doing. Even after being told, "No," in no uncertain terms, they see it as the victim playing, "hard-to-get."

NEVER THINK THAT YOU CAN HANDLE A STALKER ON YOUR OWN! Always tell somebody; tell everybody and track their behavior so that you have proof. Record everything, save everything, print everything out. Be in touch with any websites through which this is happening. Document everything even if it seems insignificant. If you are uncomfortable or feel unsure about this part of it, have a close friend do it for you - that's what I do as these stalkers make me feel like vomiting.

I can tell you from personal experience that it is creepy, annoying and unsettling. In the course of the ten or so years that I've been online, I've had four people, (three men and one woman,) decide that I was the love of their life. Two are former friends and two complete strangers. (Though thinking about it, I guess the former friends are actually complete strangers too, in the end - just in a different, unexpected way.)

Again, do your research and tell people. And I hate to say this but I've spoken with other women who feel flattered by this kind of thing. Sorry, ladies, but you are a bunch of MORONS. Stalking has nothing to do with you or what you look like or anything else. It's about them. Their only interest in life is getting and doing what they want. They truly couldn't care less about you or what you feel or think. Stalking is part of mental illness. Do not encourage it - ever - because if you don't have law enforcement on your side, or lots of tough, male relatives, like I do, (thank God,) your stalker could show up on your doorstep and really show you what it's all about.
TanyaH Plus
20 1.3k 411 United Kingdom
15 May 2015 10:05AM
Carmen, I salute you. Wise words indeed from a strong woman.

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