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Your personal works, like this, where you question the darker side of humanity, really make the viewer stand back and question their own motives, choices and ways of being. I have nothing but admiration for the way you use yourself as a canvas for your artwork. Wow!
very nice work
I have had such conversations, I understand this.
Moira
Moira
Jouko, thank you for your user award.
you have caught that emotion so well here.....
ChristineD
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a great result...
thank you very much for your user award, my p. 
Thank you for your user award, Isabel. Very much appreciated.
Every time that I post something like this or my previous post, I get alot of email from women who are having these kinds of problems. Women who don't vote or comment or publicly acknowledge what they are going through. In any way. You'd think that this information is common knowledge by now but it isn't. Or some people just don't like looking stuff up or I don't know what. I realise that not everyone is as forward and direct as I am but, ladies, please speak up. Do more than just writing an email to somebody who isn't in your circle of family and friends. Protect yourselves. Please. Before something goes really wrong. Sometimes you just can't be, "nice," my friends. You can't, "wait for it to get better." Please wake up.
For anyone having a problem with online stalking, I suggest that you go online and do some serious research. Don't live your life feeling uncomfortable - do something about it. Many attorneys are taking these cases now and if they can't do anything more than contact the stalker's employer to report their online behavior, it's still something and it's still effective - especially if the person is doing this while they are at work using company computers and time.
There is also the psychology behind stalking that is important to research, as well. Unfortunately, people who exhibit these behaviors usually don't think that they are doing anything wrong. They become obssessed and delusional and even think the victim likes what they are doing. Even after being told, "No," in no uncertain terms, they see it as the victim playing, "hard-to-get."
NEVER THINK THAT YOU CAN HANDLE A STALKER ON YOUR OWN! Always tell somebody; tell everybody and track their behavior so that you have proof. Record everything, save everything, print everything out. Be in touch with any websites through which this is happening. Document everything even if it seems insignificant. If you are uncomfortable or feel unsure about this part of it, have a close friend do it for you - that's what I do as these stalkers make me feel like vomiting.
I can tell you from personal experience that it is creepy, annoying and unsettling. In the course of the ten or so years that I've been online, I've had four people, (three men and one woman,) decide that I was the love of their life. Two are former friends and two complete strangers. (Though thinking about it, I guess the former friends are actually complete strangers too, in the end - just in a different, unexpected way.)
Again, do your research and tell people. And I hate to say this but I've spoken with other women who feel flattered by this kind of thing. Sorry, ladies, but you are a bunch of MORONS. Stalking has nothing to do with you or what you look like or anything else. It's about them. Their only interest in life is getting and doing what they want. They truly couldn't care less about you or what you feel or think. Stalking is part of mental illness. Do not encourage it - ever - because if you don't have law enforcement on your side, or lots of tough, male relatives, like I do, (thank God,) your stalker could show up on your doorstep and really show you what it's all about.
For anyone having a problem with online stalking, I suggest that you go online and do some serious research. Don't live your life feeling uncomfortable - do something about it. Many attorneys are taking these cases now and if they can't do anything more than contact the stalker's employer to report their online behavior, it's still something and it's still effective - especially if the person is doing this while they are at work using company computers and time.
There is also the psychology behind stalking that is important to research, as well. Unfortunately, people who exhibit these behaviors usually don't think that they are doing anything wrong. They become obssessed and delusional and even think the victim likes what they are doing. Even after being told, "No," in no uncertain terms, they see it as the victim playing, "hard-to-get."
NEVER THINK THAT YOU CAN HANDLE A STALKER ON YOUR OWN! Always tell somebody; tell everybody and track their behavior so that you have proof. Record everything, save everything, print everything out. Be in touch with any websites through which this is happening. Document everything even if it seems insignificant. If you are uncomfortable or feel unsure about this part of it, have a close friend do it for you - that's what I do as these stalkers make me feel like vomiting.
I can tell you from personal experience that it is creepy, annoying and unsettling. In the course of the ten or so years that I've been online, I've had four people, (three men and one woman,) decide that I was the love of their life. Two are former friends and two complete strangers. (Though thinking about it, I guess the former friends are actually complete strangers too, in the end - just in a different, unexpected way.)
Again, do your research and tell people. And I hate to say this but I've spoken with other women who feel flattered by this kind of thing. Sorry, ladies, but you are a bunch of MORONS. Stalking has nothing to do with you or what you look like or anything else. It's about them. Their only interest in life is getting and doing what they want. They truly couldn't care less about you or what you feel or think. Stalking is part of mental illness. Do not encourage it - ever - because if you don't have law enforcement on your side, or lots of tough, male relatives, like I do, (thank God,) your stalker could show up on your doorstep and really show you what it's all about.
